Everybody talks about Love

Seems like everyone is talking about love.
Everyone wants to be in love. Everyone knows
someone who is in love. But how do you define
love and how do you go about finding true love.
First of all what is love? Love is always and
ever lasting. Once you find love you are always
in love. True love never dies as they all say
and therein lies the fact about love. You don't
go looking for love, love finds you. We all have
experienced love in one way or the other. A close
friend, a pet, a first time feeling about a
classmate, church mate, school teacher, neighbor.
Love can strike anytime and your heart is filled
with joy that you have never felt before. All
because of love. Some people don't even know
that they are in love.. they just feel different.
By the same fact also is sometimes we feel we
are in love when in fact we are in lust, or desire
or just plain horny. So love comes in many different
packages and our job as humans is to discover what
love means to us as individuals and make that love
part of our lives for as long as it will last. If
it is true love it will last a lifetime.

How can you Love me?

A new friend of mine told me that she was

separated from her boyfriend. I had noticed

that her eyes were swollen from crying. She

looked haggard and tired. She had been up all

night having arguments with her boyfriend. I

did not ask her the subject of the disagreement,

but the gist of it was something about a mutual

friend of theirs , more mutual toward him than

her, I gathered. What came out of our discussion

was this. He did not argue fairly and he dissed

her and made fun of her, or he belittled her

during the conflict. Many reasons that this type

of argument exists is because the subject, while

important, was not the reason for his taking the

liberties that he did to make her feel badly. He

was out of a job. His self esteem was at it's

lowest point. To make himself feel better, he

felt the need to belittle her. For a few moments

she got caught up in defending herself. In the

long run she hated the feeling that he put on her

and she could not help but feel disdain for him

the next day and the following day. Is love there?

That is between the two of them. True love should

never permit you to take advantage of your spouse

or loved one ever. Human nature takes over

sometimes and leads us down roads we do not normally

take. Sincere love and dedicated love should never

have put them in this position. If he knew the girl

would be a conflict, she should never have been in the

picture. If he needs, wants, or desires the other

girl more than the girl he professes his love for,

maybe he should be with her. Don't verbally abuse

your loved one. Verbal abuse can be just as

detrimental as physical abuse because we as humans

carry those memories long after physical bruises

have disappeared. The emotional scars last much

longer. Treat your spouse or loved one

like you want to be treated. Think before you

speak. Realize that words once spoken cannot be

taken back just because you feel sorry. Keep

communication open but friendly. It is so easy

to sit down and write these words. It takes a

very strong person with an attitude of trust,

care, and desire to make another human being

happy all the time. A lofty goal for sure, but

a goal that is attainable and causes longevity

in a relationship. Isn't that what love is really

all about in the long run? Isn't this what we

all desire in our life? To love and be loved.

Where is the Love?

Everyone is searching for Love? Is everyone finding love?

People tell me everyday that they are in love. Most people

are in love with love itself. Most people just think they

are in love. How do you know if you are in love? How is love

defined? Who defines love for you? More than likely you define

your own definition of what love means. Love means many things

to different people. You can love your dog. You can love your

car. You can love your spouse and you can love their friends.

But what does real love truly mean? True love means a sense of

understanding, a committment to be open and caring about

someone.

Being able to sacrifice your needs to fulfill the needs of another

human being. Being able to see and understand their feelings so

deeply that you are willing to give up your needs and desires to

satisfy the needs and desires of someone else. Being there is

good, but physical appearance cannot make up for emotional

support or the ability to recognize the needs of another.

Having the compassion and the knowledge of being able to

recognize their needs and then being able to sympathize

with them to the degree of getting through to him

and helping them overcome the guilt, their feeling of

being helpless, sadness, or negative expressions, is

a sign of true love of mankind.

We are quick to judge others. This is human nature.

We are quick to even judge ourselves, sometimes

truthfully, sometimes as we think that others see us.

Life comes down to just a few short years. What

we make of our lives, how we share our lives with

others, and how we leave the world behind as others

see us, is a good indication of how you feel about

your loved ones. Take a minute. Look at yourself.

Who did you love today? Who did you tell that you loved today?